“When you begin to worry, go find something to do. Get busy being a blessing to someone; do something fruitful. Talking about your problem or sitting alone, thinking about it, does no good; it serves only to make you miserable. Above all else, remember that worrying is totally useless. Worrying will not solve your problem.” ~ Joyce Meyer ~
What do you do when worry gets to you? Do you crawl into your comfort hole and hibernate? Do you escape by going and doing unproductive things like shopping only to have to come back to the issue later? Do you eat your way through it? Do you alter your perception with alcohol or drugs? Do you get on the phone and tell anyone who will listen all about your concerns or get together and have a pity party?
Worry is thinking about all of the things that could possibly go wrong or what people will think. It is taking “what if” in directions that may not be rational and keep you from your goals. Worriers have a hard time with plane flights. Planes crash, weather or technology can alter the flight, there could be a crying baby next to me, I could miss my connecting flight, my luggage may be lost, the air is bad on planes and what if we get hijacked?
Now that I have made you worry about how you worry, let’s do something about it. Most worry is a waste of time and robs you of the energy you need to overcome the cause. First you need to get the emotion out. Emotion takes you out of the realm of probability and productivity. Meditation, Yoga, slow deep breathing and exercise are all ways to calm the mind. I prefer to burn it out on a bicycle. “When the going gets tough, the tough get going,” was a Billy Ocean song, but it is attributed to Joseph Kennedy the father of JFK. He got things done and his sons took on Russia and got us to the moon. Nothing to worry about, right?
Finally, about what other people will think. It is better for you to define what other people will think by becoming what and who you want to be. As Dr. Kevin Elko said in his Cup of Inspiration this morning, “Keep your peace rather than give it away.” Worry is giving away your peace.